Everyone knows how seriously I take my sleep. Dealing with Chronic Migraines and auto-immune diseases means sleep is a crucial part of my day to day maintenance for optimal health.
If you’ve been following my instagram you will have seen my various stories, and posts where I’ve been talking about my experience this past month with my Serenity Queen Mattress that I received from Alea Sleep.
I have been needing a new mattress for quite a while now, and when my boyfriend and I decided to move in together it made sense to get a new mattress so we start fresh. After researching a lot I came to the decision to get our new mattress from Alea Sleep. Let me tell you just a few reasons why:
They are Canadian! From the design, creation, and production it is all done in Toronto, ON — supporting local is something I am extremely involved in. If I can support locally I absolutely chose to do so, every single time. Not only that, but it means much quicker shipping. I kid you not, 3 business days and it was at my front door.
Organic (hello!!) mattress. Need I say more? You all know me by now, and I am the Organic Nerd that tries to find every way to keep my life as pure, organic based, and eco-friendly as I possibly can. Seeing as how we spend so many hours sleeping, having an Organic mattress to sleep on is that much better for your body. Not as many chemicals or toxins to fight off while your body is resting. They are actually 100% Certified GOTS Organic!
They actually donate mattresses to local community events, as well as those who are in need. 1 out of every 10 mattresses is donated to a cause that is close to Alea Sleep. Not many small businesses are able to give back so this shows so much community involvement from a smaller company.
101 sleep night trial to test it out. If you aren’t satisfied after 101 nights, simply return it for your full money back.
Just a few of the reasons why I am so in love with this company and the mattress. I have to say I have always been an incredibly light sleeper. This mattress is really good because of the memory foam, so I don’t feel my significant other moving out of the bed, which in turn is really allowing me to have some really deep sleeps. This is a huge chance from before when literally the wind blowing would wake me up.
The setup was very simple and easy as you can see in the video. They are 10.5′ thick, the box is heavy enough that two of us had to lift it, but it was so simple. It took no more than 10 minutes to be fully ready to use. We tried a few nights with no box spring, but for us the box spring offered more support which is what we were needing in the end. Alea does sell a box spring and a matching frame also if you are needing the full set up!
Overall I (but really I mean we!) are beyond happy with this bed. It fits all our needs and is definitely improving our sleep noticeably. I am optimistic it will continue to provide us with the back support we need all the while staying extremely comfortable!
**This blog post is in collaboration with Alea Sleep– while the item(s) may have been provided to me as compensation, all opinions, photos, videos, etc belong to me**
I am the first to admit I’m a total and complete Amazon Prime addict. I work from home, and rarely drive due to migraines so being able to order something and know it will arrive extremely quickly is a game changer for me!
So- What do I order from Amazon? Literally everything. If you create a wish list, I have it set up that I’m alerted anytime there is a price drop. I also frequently check out the Warehouse Deals because the items in there are totally fine, half the price, and they do accept returns on warehouse items so you can’t possibly lose. I have gotten so many household items (decor & furniture) reduced by so much because of the Warehouse Deals. I also take advantage of Subscribe & Save as a Prime member, and am always checking the timed deals. Once you start to make purchases Amazon will highlight items related to what you’ve searched and often times you will find an item you had looked at on a Timed Deal.
A few of my frequent orders are linked below for you:
Hershey’s Cookies & Cream Drops –> YES THEY ARE GF! That’s why they are my favourite and I snack on these often!
Four Sigma Mushroom Coffee – Great coffee alternative!
Floating Rustic Wall Shelves- Amazing price and I have two sets of these on my walls because they look great!
SPERRY Lobster Shoes (For those that saw my post and were asking where to buy!)
So be sure to sign up for your free 30 day Trial of Amazon Prime & let me know what you purchase!
Birth Control. We all need it, am I right? As I inch closer to 30 I have realized hormonal birth control is absolutely not for me. I already struggle with imbalanced hormones, so continuing my journey of keeping my body as organic as it can be is always on the forefront.
If you’ve been following my blog for a while, you know that almost 2 years ago I stopped hormonal birth control entirely. I switched to using the Caya Diaphraghm (female condom) and it has helped tremendously. If you’re interested in knowing more about it, checkout my Vlog HERE I have loved using Caya thus far and wouldn’t change its effectiveness at all. They last a few years at a time, and are really easy to use.
Further to these two methods I also ensure to use Organically based condoms. Sustain is my favourite brand, and they can be purchased from Amazon. They use all organic ingredients, which has a much lower risk of affecting your lady bits. I’ve always used Organic feminine products to ensure I don’t have any negative side effects from conventional feminine products, and condoms are most certainly included in that.
Blue Blocking Glasses are one more thing that I have recently learned about to help improve the frequency of my migraines. Blue lights can really trigger migraine sufferers, as well as just light in general. I have extreme light sensitivity that is debilitating some days, so when I had read about these and they were new to me, I decided I’d give them a try. I have linked my purchase below through Amazon, and they are around $20 retail. They are extremely affordable and completely worth it. I work at home, and do all my blogging on my computer so having Blue Blocking glasses are very important and helpful to adjusting the light sensitivity I experience day to day. There’s so many new, different, and unheard of treatments and aids for migraine intensity and frequency. Most I have tried, but when I find something new, and it is actually something I can afford to invest in, I totally do. These have changed a lot for me and I’m very happy with them.
I was invited to Pur Envi Eco-Spa by owner, Anna. It was a great opportunity to check out a Salon & Spa in Ottawa as I’m there so frequently. This spa is all eco friendly. They don’t use harsh chemicals or even ammonia based hair dye. Upon entering, you don’t get that harsh ammonia smell that most salons have. It was the perfect start to the appointment, because with my chronic migraines, the smell from the hair dyes would more than likely trigger one.
Anna and I realized quickly into the appointment that we have a lot more in common than initially expected. Anna informed me that she also struggles from Rheumatoid Arthritis, like myself. After discussing medications and trial & error situations, we found there was a specific reason why I was in the spa with Anna. I’m a huge believer in the universe and it working behind the scenes when you don’t even realize it. This was another one of those moments where the universe clicked for me and I immediately understood the WHY of this visit. Finding people who go through similar situations that you can bounce ideas off of, ask questions, etc. is really special. For me, being diagnosed so young, I always wind up with questions. The fact that Anna was an open book was helpful and I admire her ability to be strong and forthcoming about her situation. I understand the difficulty of it, so needless to say, I was grateful for her sharing her mind with me
Anna has been in the beauty industry her whole life, but had started out in the hairstyling industry. However she had to switch to esthetics as she had severe allergies to perms and colors. Once her health took forefront in priorities Anna decided to start working from home in order to eliminate a lot of triggers which are bad for anyone with Auto- Immune diseases.
So off to a great start, I sat down in the beautiful and comfy pedicure chairs and got to pick my colour. They use Artistic Nail Design polishes and I selected the colour “Uptown” for my toes as it has been my chosen colour lately. It is a Mauve tone, and really great for the winter I think. I have been wearing a sweater from American Eagle lately and it is the same shade.
The pedicure ($65-75) was super relaxing, especially because Anna focuses on having an all natural spa, so all the scrubs and lotions smell amazing like lavender and mint We got to connect and bond over our Auto-Immune disease struggles and get pampered at the same time. She was fantastic at making sure her movements were not detrimental to my usually sore feet, and she made sure to be extremely gentle. The pedicure was finished off with some BCL Lavender lotion (Be, Care, Love) which is an all natural based lotion, organically based and packed with anti-oxidants and vitamins for healthy skin. The Lavender Mint combo is so relaxing and smells really wonderful.
Next up I had an eye-brow wax ($30) using Nu-Free which is a soy-based wax that tends to be less than painful than typical waxing, and slows down the regrowth of hair. When used in conjunction with the Finipil (antiseptic cooling lotion) it can reduce ingrown and irritation, and can help slow the production of hair. The wax was absolutely painless and my brows have looked great since.
While I didn’t have a hair service, I did look into the products they use and the Calura hair dye is all Gluten Free, suitable for vegans, ammonia free, and overall seem to be great hair colouring products. I really appreciate the fact that Anna went to all these measures to create a really health based salon and spa for everyone to enjoy no matter their limits. I am definitely going to get a hair service next time I return. They are keratin based and have absolutely no gluten containing ingredients fo those who have DH and need GF products.
The experience was fantastic, and I have definitely found the salon for me when I am in Ottawa. They take pampering to another level and I was able to feel like a Princess for the afternoon. Be sure to mention my review if you’re booking, and I’d love to hear your positive experiences!
*The salon and spa services were provided to me for the nature of this blog post, but opinions are all my own*
I’m in need of a savior, but I’m not asking for favors My whole life, I’ve felt like a burden I think too much, and I hate it
-Silence; Marshmallow ft Khalid
It has been a really long time since I’ve had the guts to write a blog so personal.
As you all know, I recently moved from Whitby to Kingston which was a really big change. I didn’t think I had it in me, even with so much support. Mentally it was hard to wrap my mind around even though I knew Kingston was the better spot for me to settle down and grow old in, it was still a little bit foreign. I grew up here, and all my family is here – but in most ways my LIFE is in Whitby. Toronto is also home to me. It’s a strange feeling that I’m constantly going back and forth between which feels like home. I guess they are both home, for different reasons.
So there was a lot of reasons I left Whitby, but a big one was the fact I was in dire need to get back to my roots and dig deep in finding “The Old Erin”. These past 5 years have been nothing short of traumatic, and in turn I have had some incredible changes and emotions. Mental health really took a forefront in my life in these last 5 years and I was under a constant cloud of self hate, anger and depression.
First my dad got Cancer- that was incredibly stressful and really hard to wrap my mind around. I’ve written blogs about that before so I won’t go into too much detail but the struggles of going through that brought up uncontrollable anxiety and panic attacks. It was extremely tough on me personally, I had zero coping mechanisms. Everyone deals with it differently and for me it was really hard to manage. Even now, it is a difficult topic I have trouble vocalizing as it just brings me back to a dark place. If I talk about it I choke up, because it was just such a dark and uncertain time. What is even more ironic is we are coming up on the 5 year mark in 2019 which is considered Cancer Free. Its a big hurdle to overcome and while I am the most proud of my dad, I am also proud of myself for not letting that situation bury me over the years.
In the last two months since moving to Kingston I have really had to learn to love myself again. After being in an incredibly toxic relationship over the course of three years, I was drained of any amount of self love. Toxic relationships truly change you, in the worst ways. I am so incredibly thankful to my good friends who stuck with me even when I wouldn’t leave because I was too stubborn. They loved me and hugged me while I cried and never left my side or did not have my back for one second. I hope and pray anyone else going through a toxic situation has friends to lean on. I would not be alive if it weren’t for those friends today –that is for certain.
I spent years loving someone who did not know how to give respect or love. I don’t doubt for a second that this person did not love me, I just think he was never taught about love and respect. No matter how much I was open about my feelings of rejection and hurt, he was unwilling to look in the mirror and make changes. I was blamed for every problem and told it was my anxiety, or my lack of self confidence. Even though I didn’t see it then, it was the constant criticism that causing my anxiety and self hate. At some point I got lost in the atmosphere and just fell apart. I believed the horrible things I was told about myself, and I punished myself for being that way. I was too skinny, I was too pale, I didn’t eat enough, I wasn’t fit enough. I couldn’t cook food right, nor could I dress in a way that was appreciated. There was absolutely no acceptance of who I was as a person and instead of leaving the toxic relationship I stayed. Anyone who has experienced this I think can understand the feeling of truly loving someone with every piece of yourself and wishing they could love you the same. I would have done anything for this person, and wished every day I would be accepted, loved, and embraced for who I was. I knew if I could just be accepted and loved the relationship would improve. What I didn’t know, was that he was incapable of giving me what I needed. So instead I stayed, and continued to fall deeper and deeper into hating myself. I really felt if I couldn’t get him to love me, that I wasn’t worthy period. I was told so often about what I lacked, what I couldn’t do, how I couldn’t do it, and why I wasn’t doing it right. This went on for 2+ years of constant back and forth. With each day that passed I just wanted to be loved, and with each hurtful thing said to me it just cut me deeper and made me hate myself more. Every day I could call my girlfriends, crying, and wondering why he couldn’t see me the way they did and everyone else around me. Most days, I felt like I would rather die than be alone. As dramatic as that sounds- unless you have been in a relationship where your mind is so controlled by the other person, it is all you think. I didn’t think I could live or breathe without him.
Eventually, at some point things really fell apart and I guess that is the silver lining to this (Cue “Dancing With our Hands Tied- Taylor Swift;; this song is the literal explanation of the entire relationship). I don’t remember the exact moment, or event that occurred. I just remember things starting to not add up, trust issues set in (which surprisingly we never had trust issues, up until the end), and we both just knew it was over. My friend Rachel was there to pick me right up and help me through that incredibly dark time. She was able to keep me laughing, busy, and moving forward. I had to push on, I had survived an extremely traumatic situation, and made it out. The hard part had just begun though. On one hand, the immediate feeling of relief washed over me. To finally breathe, and not worry about being criticized for every single thing I did or did not do was overwhelming. It was a freedom I had never felt before in my whole life. There is nothing worse than hating yourself (from the years of hearing and believing it) and then being left alone by that person. The breakup was mutual, don’t get me wrong. But I still had feelings of emptiness and like I failed because he wasn’t there.
Over the next 6 months I not only managed to move to a new city, but completely start my life over. I have worked so hard through therapy and practise to love myself again. A lot of self care was practised, and a lot of doing exactly what felt good to me was what helped me get past all the negativity that was engrained in my brain. At no point will I ever date a person who shows signs of being abusive and toxic. I can spot the red flags very easily now, and the clarity I have is nothing short of a miracle. I am so proud of the progress I made and how I got here. I am proud of the fact this move solidified my three best girlfriends. You know who you are, and I wouldn’t be the confident, beautiful, loving person I am today without you three. My friends build me up, and I don’t feel guilty for accepting compliments from them. At no point should anyone feel guilty for compliments but thats just how my mind has been trained up until this point. Most people aren’t lucky enough to have one good friend and I have been blessed with three of the best girlfriends anyone could ever need. They all bring different perspectives to my life and for each I am beyond thankful and grateful for. With the help of them, I have been able to build myself back up, and move to a new city. Friendships are incredibly important when rebuilding your self love. You need to have people who see you the way you are and know when you need some confidence.
As I dip my toes back in the dating world it’s an interesting thing. I am almost 29, at the age where I certainly know I want to get married and have a child. Finding someone who wants the same things, and is a good person is the most difficult task. Learning to trust again is a challenge, I don’t really trust anyone is good anymore and I have all these fears of letting someone in, only to have them wind up putting me through the ringer again. I think I am certainly OK with winding up alone, it is not the end of the world. I just feel that the current state of Dating in 2019 is a hot mess, in which no one is clear or kind. It’s been a struggle, but I’m happy to say I can laugh now. I can laugh when a guy wants to say something hateful to me. I’m better than that. At no point have I ever been the person to put someone else down (Probably because that is what I am used to dealing with.), but I find it’s very common. It means a lot of duds, and ghosting. It’s hard to not overthink every single thing going on, do you talk too much or too little? It’s getting easier to just be myself though and the person can either take it and embrace it, or leave. Either is fine, I’m just finally at the point where I am who I am and it’s not changing. I love myself, I am an incredibly good and loyal friend. I will never intentionally hurt someone nor do them wrong. The cool thing is though, when you love yourself, you don’t look for acceptance elsewhere. I am the only person who needs to love me and I am finally there again. Months of therapy, lots of books, and tons of writing. So many of my emotions I was able to write and journal about. Just like this blog here is something I’ve been putting off for a while because it’s just nerve-racking. But it is incredibly freeing and empowering to be able to finally speak out on these past few months and what I’ve been going through. I’m finally able to LOVE my blog, and be proud of the work I do.
I was able to overcome some absolutely wild hurdles, and come out on the other side better than ever. I am thriving, I have great friends, and a family who loves me. 2019 is not off to a bad start..
Here is my Youtube Review of my personal choice of Natural Birth Control. This is a Caya Contoured Diaphragm. Absolutely NO hormones involved. You simply insert this beforehand, and take it out the next morning, or at least 8 hours later. You can’t feel it, in fact, a few times I literally forgot about it. But they work, and if you’re someone like me who absolutely avoids messing with my bodies organic hormones then this is definitely a way to go. If you want to ask more about it, or just talk please email me at email@example.com
I have taken the Depo Shot for years, I had a copper IUD for 2 years, I took the pill, and they all caused various issues. Either long periods, or no periods, migraines worsened, or my skin got worse, overall feeling of panic when taking any amounts of hormones. I have been off the Depo Shot for a full year now and my body feels a lot less roller coaster for my hormones.
Boss Beauty Bar is a brand new Environmentally Conscious Spa that has opened in the heart of Whitby, ON.
Walking into Boss Beauty Bar is literally a girls dream. White walls, marble, and Rose Gold everything. It’s basically how I envision my dream office space being… only in a spa! What’s better than that? Not much, in my opinion.
They are in the process of getting their liquor license, which will definitely enhance the experience that much more in the future. Girls night in? I’m feeling it The vibe of this space is just girly, bright, and so welcoming. So what does it entail to be an Environmentally Conscious spa? Well, first of all they are SUPER clean. New tools are used for each and every client. The biggest part that drew me into this spa was they are free of the big 5 beauty chemicals commonly used in other spas.
No Formaldehyde, toluene, BHA, DBP or Camphor. They use only cruelty free, vegan, and gluten free products! They do have some that aren’t, but the variety of colours they have and options is amazing. There are so many positives that this spa has, I literally can’t get enough. They have it dressed to the nines, large white leather chairs embellished with gigantic jewels which is sure to make any women feel like a princess! They use the line of products called Delectable, which are vegan, cruelty free, gluten free, paraben free, and they smell like candy. I couldn’t get enough of this line.
They do nails, lashes, and waxing. Everything you need to get fully pampered.
They have the options of booking your appointment online. I highly suggest Amanda D, she was so relatable, friendly, and I think we laughed the entire time. It’s so refreshing to have someone who is interested in chatting and theres no uncomfortable silence, or any sort of language barrier. It really makes the experience better. Call today and book your appointment, don’t forget on Saturdays that the Town of Whitby has FREE parking! Perfect to take advantage of this.